dating

5 Ways to NOT Be Creepy

Don't be this guy.Editor's Note: This piece is by Nick Notas, our Boston Wingman Strategist and Confidence Coach. You can read more of his pieces at The Dating Specialist.

Once a woman has filed you under creepy, it’s damn near impossible to change her mind.

When meeting a woman, it’s important she’s comfortable because if she feels nervous, it’ll put her on the defensive.

That’s why I’m such a huge advocate of making the best first impression possible.

Most times, conveying you’re a normal guy is as simple as avoiding some common mistakes.

Below are five ways you can make sure your interactions start on the right foot.

5 Lessons in Getting Her Number

Get her number. And a date.Editor's Note: This piece is by Nick Notas, our Boston Wingman Strategist and Confidence Coach. You can read more of his pieces at The Dating Specialist.

Asking a woman for her number can be scary. One critical moment decides whether you might see each other again or if it’s the final goodbye.

Motivation: The Confidence Killer

Motivation can be your biggest mind block -- and most of us don’t even know it.

Generally when people know what they need to work on, they get motivated. But when they don’t actually work on it, they believe the motivation wasn’t enough.

But that’s wrong.

If you weren’t motivated, you wouldn’t feel the urge the do research, read as much as you can -- or even reach out to an expert to get help.

Some Twitter Fun

This morning one of my friends, David Gerzof, a professor at Emerson College, appeared on Fox Boston morning news to talk about who people should follow on Twitter. I'm excited to say I've made the list with friend, Steve Garfield, and potential friend, Chad Ochocinco.

I'm always on Twitter, interacting with people, giving quick 140-characted sized snippets of advice, and sharing interesting content I typically don't share here. I highly recommend you follow me on Twitter.

Just another value-add to your dating arsenal.

How To Be The Leading Man

Here how to earn your stripes as a gentleman.Editor's Note: This piece is by Nick Notas, our Boston Wingman Strategist and Confidence Coach. You can read more of his pieces at The Dating Specialist.

Where do you want to eat?” 
“I don’t know where do you want to go?” 
“I really don’t care at all, you choose.”

Does this conversation sound familiar? There’s nothing more frustrating to girls than a guy who can’t make up his mind.

Women love a man who can lead. A man who takes charge of things and is strong yet respectful. Don’t believe it? Look at nearly every romance novel written in the last 50 years.

When Do Most Breakups Happen?

If you've ever been curious -- or want to predict your fate -- here are times when people are breaking up most often, according to Facebook. Keep in mind, these times are when relationship statuses change so my guess is the actual breakup "peak times" are happening right after Valentine's Day and just before Thanksgiving.

Hmm, I wonder why those tho holidays?

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8 Rules For Texting a Woman

Fail.Editor's Note: This piece is by Nick Notas, our Boston Wingman Strategist and Confidence Coach. You can read more of his pieces at The Dating Specialist.

As part of the dating process, you’re responsible for keeping in touch with her and making things interesting. Thankfully, this works in your favor.

Texting allows you to come up with witty and enticing responses from a safe location.

It’s easy enough to master and with some basic guidelines, you should be a pro in no time. Here are some simple points to remember when texting a girl you’re interested in.

Sleep More. Get Laid.

That was the original concept for this infographic. It still makes me laugh.

I had the awesome opportunity to team up with Zeo, a wellness company, on a research project that found whether or not sleep can effect your game.

You'll be surprised to see how much it does affect your ability to date. I typically sleep roughly 7-8 hours a day no matter when I go to sleep the night before (just ask my fiancée what happens if I don't get enough sleep).

Enjoy the infographic below and be sure to pass it around.


10 Ways to Get Men To Approach You

As fun as it looks, try not to be this guy.Editor's Note: This piece is by Nick Notas, our Boston Wingman Strategist and Confidence Coach. You can read more of his pieces at The Dating Specialist.

Over the past week, I've been getting in many conversations about whether women should approach, takeinitiative, etc.

Conveniently, our Confidence Coach has some things to say about it.

Gentlemen, pay attention to these signals when meeting women.

The Winning Mindset

I get a lot of people asking me about confidence. The most important thing to understand is confidence is an emotion.

Because it's not tangible, confidence is not something you can “acquire.” It’s something you grow and like a muscle, it can either get stronger or weaker.

There are two key states that determine your success approaching and attracting women.