There is often a disconnect between what men think women want vs. what they actually want. Men typically think that women want a big, strong, masculine provider when in reality, women want a confident, humble guy that they can emotionally connect with and trust.
Men and women often communicate differently and have different perspectives on dating, making it difficult to find a connection. Here is some dating advice for men from women…
“When online dating, treat her as a friend at first”
Most women get an overwhelming amount of creepy messages. Try to refrain from offering physical compliments or talking about sex in any way too early. Your early interactions show where your intentions are. Instead, treat her more like a friend at first. Friendship is an excellent foundation for a relationship, and what women seek in a romantic relationship is not all that different from a friendship.
Instead of saying something like, “Hello beautiful” or “Why is a beautiful girl like you single?” right away on a dating app, get to know her in a friendly way by showing genuine interest in her likes and dislikes. There are plenty of beautiful women out there, so you’ll make her feel special by complimenting something unique to her.
“Be confident, not arrogant...in all aspects”
Anyone with confidence issues is typically not pleasant to be around. Many guys are told to “man up” as children and are conditioned to feel insecure about things, like their career achievements, height, and even performance in the bedroom. A guy that can laugh at himself, his flaws and admit that they’re wrong every once in a while is attractive to women and shows he is secure with himself.
Guys could benefit greatly from being honest and even confident enough to tackle their insecurities, especially with sensitive topics like performance anxiety. There are many ways around this insecurity, one easy fix being with an ED medication.
If you are unsure, you can see a doctor and find out if something like fast-acting Sildenafil can work. Rather than making excuses or feeling embarrassed, be honest and know there are ways around it. Don’t be afraid to show affection and emotion, either. Breaking the expectation that you have to “man up” shows true confidence that is super attractive.
“Personal hygiene and cleanliness matter”
Women don’t want to date a frat boy. A man that prioritizes taking care of himself and his environment shows maturity and respect. Invest in yourself and your self-care. Practice good hygiene, table etiquette, and overall cleanliness.
Improve your space by putting in some effort with tasteful art or photographs that reflect your style or interests. These are basic things that are commonly overlooked by men but greatly noticed by women.
“Notice the little things”
All too often, men think that grand gestures like fancy dates or gifts win women over. While women appreciate these things, little gestures often matter more. Women have been wined and dined plenty. Put more effort into dating by listening to her gush about things that excite her.
If she’s always wanted to go to a drive-in movie theater, set one up in your driveway or bring her to one. If she loves coffee, go to a coffee cupping class, drive around and sample all the local shops one morning, or bring her her favorite drink one day as a surprise.
Even going out of your way to take pictures of you together is a small gesture of commitment while dating. It shows you want to capture the memory together and that you expect to continue seeing each other. Try to think of how you could show genuine appreciation, rather than another cliché dating experience.
Improving things like your confidence, self-care, and communication skills benefit not only your dating and attraction, but your overall quality of life. If you second guess yourself, don’t be afraid to reach out to the women in your life and ask for their opinion about a date idea or text response.
Treat your dates as individuals, rather than going on the same types of dates in the same restaurants, with the same conversation, think outside the box and put your best foot forward.